I was an anxious child, from being afraid of the dark, to the constant fear of my parents dying, to being ashamed of walking across a room to sharpen my pencil in school. That anxiety became social anxiety during my teen years (although I wouldn’t know this for another 20 years).
And college was was worse. Ugh!
On my own with no one to run interference for me, I actually went hungry my first 2 days at college. I was too afraid to go to the cafeteria alone. I didn’t realize I was also an introvert, so fitting in at college was a complete no go for me.
I was commissioned a 2LT in the US Army. Anxiety made it difficult to network and pretty much impossible to self-promote to managers and senior level staff.
As an introvert I was so slow to warm up to people, many assumed I was incompetent. Anxiety, my own self-doubt, and the impostor syndrome made me feel incompetent as a leader. As a human being I felt incompetent!
Early in my career–after spending 6 ½ years in the U.S. Army–I received many job offers from large corporations that wanted to put me in a leadership role.
I turned them all down.
For years after that, I continued to be offered prestigious promotions within the companies I worked for.
I turned them all down, too.
I was terrified of speaking up in meetings. The thought of being responsible for other people paralyzed me. And taking the lead on a new project? Forget it.
I was convinced that I wasn’t really a leader. Besides, there was no way I had enough experience or knowledge to excel in an advanced position.
This led me stay stuck in jobs, bypassed for promotions, resulting in the loss of tens of thousands of dollars of income each year.
I was tired of living with shame and guilt. Tired of late night emotional eating as I secretly ate my way through whole cakes and bags and bags of cookies.
Tired of being held back by fear. Tired of being bypassed for promotions.
Then I had the most amazing breakthrough.
While doing research for one of my classes, I came across the definition for something called social anxiety.
I was stunned.
As I read it, it seemed like this person had been following me around all of my life, knew me and wrote my entire life history in that article. They knew everything I’d been feeling and going through.
This was my aha moment! I started to research and research. I read and I read.
I knew then that now that I’d realize what I had I could take action to beat it.
I let go of the toxic guilt and shame I’d carried for years.
I let go of perfectionism. I let go of self-doubt.
I learned strategies to manage my anxiety.
I learned how to use fear to take calculated risks.
I started setting and achieving my own goals and visions for my life.
My self-confidence increased.
I built my self-worth.
I was in control of my life.
I completed 2 degrees. I transitioned to new careers which resulted in several promotions and increased salary. I started two corporations.
Now I support women (and I actually coach some men as well) to do what I did. I coach them to excel by empowering them to build confidence in their own self-worth, manage stress and anxiety, speak up, let go of fear and self-doubt to embrace self-confidence, dream big, and leap to their next best level.
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